We refer to them as our unlived lives because somewhere we believe that they were open to us; but for some reason and we might spend a great deal of our lived lives trying to find and give the reason they were not possible. And what was not possible all too easily becomes the story of our lives. Indeed, our lived lives might become a protracted mourning for, or an endless tantrum about, the lives we were unable to live. But the exemptions we suffer, whether forced or chosen, make us who we are.
Adam Phillips, Missing Out
